i just realised this.
when we talk to someone who's hurting or troubled,
listen first.
don't dive at every chance to tell them what they are doing wrong that results in the incapability to be happy.empathize with them.. say things like "yeah", "i understand".. of cos if the things they say is like an absolute wrong. you don't have to agree with them, but still, resist, resist.. don't dive at it unless really necessary.
when they are done, u can now give your input.
make it short and simple, not too philosophyish.
it can even just be a optimistic/alternative thinking contradicting to theirs.
and thats it.
give them a hug. drop them a note later on. show them u care. anytime.
maybe sometimes, no input is even needed. just show them u care by being around.
people don't have to listen to the right answers and what they have to do.
because chances are, they already know.
we don't have to make them feel worse by pointing out how wrong they are living.
they know.
we just need them to grasp that glimpse of hope in our sweet input.
i believe the rest will follow.
cos hope or just another sweet perspective motivates the knowledge in them to become something more solid.
if the rest don't follow, just follow up with them!
at least that was how i felt. i don't know if other ppl feel the same too. but i'm sure there are other ways to speak to different people because we all eat different rice. but to speak to people like me, i think thats pretty it. maybe this was the way to speak to people in need all along, and i'm just slow to realise!
thank you friend.
